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Subject:  Re: Tough weekend Date:  3/19/2001  1:56 PM
Author:  heatherlynn Number:  49 of 14995

Niki:

I know you would love to stay home with your son for a year. I plan on, when I have kids, being a stay at home mom, no matter what I have to do. I am trying to get my business off the ground so it won't matter, I can still work, earn money, yet be home for the kids. *grin* Depression has killed it for a while, but I am refusing to give up from now on!

My first thing to tell you is to NOT take his blowing up personally. He has issues that he needs to deal with. Yes, you can love him through the issues, just don't take his problems as your own. I've always taken problems as my own, when they are NOT my problems. It drives so many wedges into things, it's difficult to concentrate and focus.

Good going with finding a therapist for the both of you. If you need to find a therapist to work on your issues, go ahead! I started therapy last summer, and now my SO goes with me on a regular basis to my therapist, but he is having so many problems, that he is talking to his own therapist independently of me. Yes, it does cause some extra expense, but in the end, is it worth it? YESYESYES!!!

BTW, I am reading (for the second time) a book called "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz. It's about making agreements with yourself. I love this book, because it tells why we never live up to our high standards, and how to break free of them. If you are so inclined, check it out of the library or get it at a bookstore. I think it's worth it.

heather
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