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|Subject: Monday Update and punishment rules||Date: 3/30/2009 11:28 AM|
|Author: Tigorious||Number: 30 of 35|
We had a good time with my stepson this weekend. I was able to find out what I needed from him to plan the vacation.
The only dark spot of the weekend was that my stepson is in trouble from his mom, for calling her names. He has called her names to her face, in front of his teachers, and at his maternal aunt's house.
The way my husband handles it is if he gets in trouble for something done at his mom's, that is up to her to punish. If he gets in trouble for something at our house, it is up to my husband to handle. But, if it happens at school, both houses punish him.
His mom, thinks that if it happens at her house, my husband should punish him. If it happens at school, my husband should punish him. And if it happens at our house, my husband should punish him. She thinks my husband should always be the "big bad wolf". Many a fight between the parents has broke out over this.
So, long story short, my stepson was on restrictions from his ipod and internet privelages this weekend. Plus, with the money that he got from doing chores, he was forced to put it all into his savings. It meant he had no spending money for the coming week. He was quite bummed.
The savings, by the way, is in a big piggy bank. For about a year now, my husband taxes his son's chore money. He makes his son do the math at 15%. The money is being saved to help him buy his first car. I have promised to match his first $100 with $100 of my personal money. The chores that he can get paid for are all optional, so sometimes he doesn't do anything and doesn't get paid. He has some chores that aren't optional (family chores) that he does not get paid for.
I know it does not seem like it, but we did have a good weekend. He almost beat me at scrabble. He helped me prune some of my roses. He and his dad took the dogs on some long walks. My husband showed him how to cook hamburgers on the grill(including getting the grill set up and cleaning it).
All in all it was a good weekend. As a bonus, my stepdaughter(almost 21 years old and "lives" with us) actually was around some this weekend.
I wish you well..............
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