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Subject:  Re: He Lost 95% of His "Friends" Date:  10/17/2012  12:03 PM
Author:  Frydaze1 Number:  183694 of 197560

My husband and I are married, but we are definitely still two individual people with our own ideas, likes, and dislikes.

My uncle performed our marriage 1.5 weeks ago, and I gave him leeway to add in some paragraphs of his own into the script we'd given him. He did a brilliant job. But one of the things he said was so perfect, I wonder what he would have done if I'd let him write the whole script.

He talked about how so many ceremonies say that the two shall be made one... but that isn't really how it works. We're still two people. We still have two opinions, two personalities, etc. And the real challenge of marriage is accepting that we are - and will remain - two people, not one. And working with that. Respecting that.

He said a bunch of other great stuff, and I hope the video came out clear enough for me to listen again.

But he's right. We are two people.

Back when women were considered property, it wasn't a question. Women were expected to do what their husbands told them to. They weren't made one; the *one* existed before and continued to exist afterward. In our modern world that shouldn't happen.