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Author: Patzer Big gold star, 5000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: of 2746  
Subject: A Decade Later Date: 12/11/2012 7:36 PM
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10 years ago today, I got served papers telling me that then-wife was seeking legal separation. I misread them to be divorce papers at the time, but that's okay; the proceding later morphed into a full divorce.

That was a stressful day in the midst of a stressful month, but in hindsight it was the best Christmas present I ever got from my ex-wife.

Then: I became a single parent to a troubled 16 year old daughter, and went through a 2 year stressful process culminating in divorce. I got custody and the house. She got a property settlement and alimony.

Now: I'm an empty nester with no debt. I have a good relationship with a 26 year old daughter who is mostly self-supporting. (Okay, I help out with car repairs and dental bills from time to time; but she needs less help than I expected when she moved out.)

I'm still paying alimony, and will be until I mail the final payment in late February, 2016. It's worth it. Life is much better now. I hear, third hand, that my ex-wife still has issues that sound a lot like some of the issues I lived with for 18 years. I can observe first hand that my daughter has overcome many of the issues she faced a decade ago.

I don't usually notice the anniversaries of stuff that happened with my divorce, but the calendar date just kind of struck me today. So I'm pausing for a little reflection, and giving thanks for the blessings in my life.

Patzer
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