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Author: PosFCF Big gold star, 5000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: of 933  
Subject: Re: Asking for help Date: 6/2/2012 10:06 PM
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So about a month ago someone in the program offered to help me......Well I finally got the time to schedule things

I can't speak for anyone but myself, but if someone asks me to help them with something & I agree to provide the labor if they just paid for the parts, and then I don't hear from them for a month.....I don't know, I think that a not too small part of me would feel like "Oh, so now his Nibs is ready!".

If you have the money to use professional, then use one and save the favors from friends for the times when you need them.

I start to isolate and not engage with people in the program.

Friends in the program aren't people who are there to do favors for you. Friends in the program are fellow sick people trying to stay sober one day at a time and relying to some degree on the fellowship to help them do that.

That doesn't mean favors can't be done, but I don't want to ask a favor of anyone in the rooms in the first 30 or 40 contacts with them, lest they think that the only reason I'm interacting with them is because of what they can do for me.

Just engage in fellowship for fellowship's sake. Keep it simple.

If growing up was easy, I'd have done it the first time around.

Poz
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