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Am I the only one who has "seen the light" but been unable to fully act upon it? If not, I'm curious as to any similar stories or thoughts/suggestions/ideas on coping with this stress.
In the 12-step programs, it is widely acknowledged that a person has to "hit bottom" before being willing to make a change. This is true for everything that is wrong in our lives, not just addictions.
I hit bottom.
Having been to Hell already, I do not recommend the trip. To anybody.
Whatever it takes, find some way of turning around before getting there. What I would suggest is some time out, a retreat somewhere, just you, your own inner voice, and writing implements. Make a list of those things you believe you want to change. And then start another sheet of paper answering these questions for every item on your list:
. why haven't I fixed this yet?
. what's stopping me?
Then start another sheet answering this question for every why/what on the second list:
. how can I get over/under/around this obstacle?
If you can get through this exercise in a weekend, great. If it takes a week, take a week for it. If it takes a month, take a month. If it takes a year, take a year. If it takes a decade, take a decade. But do it. The world will spin without you for a while, but it will be here when you get back.

I'm InLivingColor
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