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(and I did send them off with condoms ;)

I did not. What I did was have a discussion with him about being responsible, told him where he could most likely get condoms and advised he be prepared before he actually needed them because when the hormones kick in it tends to crowd out good judgement. We discussed how it is smarter and easier to prevent pregnancy and STDs than deal with the consequences, and what some of those consequences could be if he did not prevent them. If he is mature enough to be sexually active, then he is mature enough to get his own condoms. He sure doesn't need his mommy getting them for him.

On winter break I asked him if he was sexually active, which led to a great discussion that would not have happened had I not asked. I have always talked to him about sex, drugs and alcohol, let him know there was nothing he could not tell me and that I would not be judgmental. He knows that I am not the Virgin Mother but that there were things I would certainly do differently if I had the choice, and while I would love it if I could keep him from making some of the mistakes I made, I realized he had to make his own decisions. I was really pleased with how honest he was with me, while sparing any unnecessary details. I was not speaking to a child anymore, but with an adult.

If you don't ask, it is unlikely they will tell.

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