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Author: inparadise Big funky green star, 20000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: of 2196  
Subject: Re: cutting Date: 1/18/2013 9:33 AM
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Boy this job sure isn't easy. Your post is a good example of that.

...the elf has already broken confidence by telling me.

I do not know these kids, he won't name them, so cannot notify parents/counselors ...

Nor IMO should you. Specifically anyway. Elf has put his trust in you and you do not want to shut down that communication. You could alert the counselors in the school of the Twitter prank, and even possibly your understanding that some kids in the school have succumbed to it. If they are anything like our school, a school issued parental alert will go out re the prank and suggesting they all talk to their kids about cutting. There would be references to places to educate oneself re cutting and where to get help if it is deemed to be an issue. You will not be mentioned. Get Elf's permission if you wish, but then you would have to abide by his decision, or again risk losing his trust. Or you could simply explain to him what you are going to do and why, thanking him profusely for being mature enough to discuss it with you, and pointing out that this is a way to potentially get his friends help without his having ratted them out.

We have an understanding in our house that the only time we expect the boys to rat each other or their friends out is if they are putting themselves or others in danger. Loyalty has many shades of gray, and in that case it is more loyal to get an adult involved than to remain silent.


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