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Subject: Dealing with racist relatives Date: 10/14/2012 1:24 AM
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So soon I will be at a family event that involves some of my closest relatives. The issue that I am dealing with is that some of them are very open racists. Considering they live in an area of the country where it is unlikely they would have to encounter a minority, this continues to surprise me. It isn't even as if I see them act upon it, in that case it would be clear to speak up.

What typically happens is that "J" will start a story in casual conversation which always ends up how badly treated he and wife "M" have been by minorities. For example, while traveling they stop in a shopping mall. Soon they realize that most of the people there are black; they become convinced "they are all staring at us"; and then "have to" leave for their own safety since this must be a "bad" area of town. It is an almost constant stream of stories like this. I predict this visit will be even worse since we will all be in a more diverse area of the country for the family event.

I have had a hard time figuring when to speak up. The remarks are constant and blatant. The couple involved congratulate themselves on their Christianity. Our culture is very opposed to confrontation (it is not perceived as "nice"). The rest of the family will not remark on this and certain members agree to various extents (especially when it comes to the President).

So what to do? Keep my mouth shut and play "nice"?
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