Dean the husband wrote:but she is smart.V replied:A good first step. This is the first time I have seen you post a positive statement about your wife. ^^^^^Finally Dean said - then you must have missed this one posted back on 10/2012:Someone wrote:Post five nice things about your wife. Because so far all we've heard from you is why she sucks. So tell us five things she does right. You start working on that list in your head and you'll be in a better mindset when you talk to her about your financial future.Lara Amber^^She has excellent spatial intelligence. It is much higher than mine.^^I'm still physically attracted to her.^^She is not morbidly obese, she doesn't drink or gamble.^^Although a 'shy' person, over the last 3-4 years she has really stepped out of her comfort zone with a few social activities. I am proud of her for that.^^She has done our taxes for us for about the last 5-6 years. I do not have the patient or intelligence for that. When she ran a daycare, it was a lot of work because she could write off many of our expenses that were house related since she ran our business in the home.^^She makes some money which is 100 times better than making NO money.^^Last year I was on FMLA for 12 weeks. She didn't fall apart during that very stressful time for our family.