Did you ever for one minute think that there might be some people on this board that might be child free because they CANNOT have children?

I wish I could rec your post more than once. I occasionally lurk here, because at some point - if we can't solve my recurrent miscarriages - childfree living is one of many options we are open to considering. This board is a haven on those days - like today - when I feel like crawling into the oven and not coming out. Seeing so many childfree people with rich, full lives reminds me that, although I'd like to be a parent, I can create a meaningful life even if I do not get that opportunity.

Yesterday, I found out that I've lost my fourth pregnancy (I had surgery today). I logged onto this board as a way to staunch the emotional hemorrhage. I had already seen FoolishApple's post on the birth of his twins, and was happy for both him and his wife. Seeing his post here, however, was like a kick in the stomach on a particularly grief-filled day. That's when I realized that he's not so much proud and relieved as he is self-involved and callous.

Yes, good for you, FoolishApple - too bad that your twins' brush with tragedy seems to have done nothing for your utter lack of sensitivity to the tragedies of others.

BG