****DIVERSITY! Don't judge me because I have less energy than you. We are not cloned robots.
We all need to be responsible for the basics of our lives as adults -

^^I am.

regardless of any issues of personal energy level. We all need to feed, clothe and house ourselves.

^^I have for the last 30 years straight.

That's the most basic thing. The bottom line. To say you don't have energy to shop or cook (ever?)

^^I never said that I NEVER shop or cook. I do both weekly.

is a cop-out. If you want your wife to avoid making excuses you need to avoid doing so yourself.

^^OK

Your condition is something that requires work-arounds. It may require advance planning to be sure you can do something successfully. It may require meds. It may require shuffling the schedule of your life. But it's not an excuse to not act like an adult.

^^I go to work every day. I provide 45k to the home and health insurance. I have never been in jail. I spend time daily with my kids. What makes you think I am not acting like an adult?