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Do you know how awful it is to kill a friend in part because he's expensive and inconvenient? I'm not going to get over that. I feel like I'm a hideously evil person....
.....When you're in agony, the law in most states doesn't give your family or friends the option of putting you to sleep. You get to suffer.


My across-the-hall neighbor, Hank, is a cancer survivor in his early 60's. He has a number of health problems, and is very aggressive about going after them--I think he takes about 30 pills a day, and one injection. He also adores cats.

About a year ago, Hank's cat Duke was diagnosed with cancer. It was treatable, and Hank could afford it, but still he had Duke put to sleep instead. This was his only companion for the past 14 years, and there was a deep, deep love between them. Hank still talks about Duke and how much he misses him.

I was surprised that Hank didn't try to treat Duke's cancer, but he told me that knowing what chemotherapy feels like, there's no way he could put his cat through that. He said that sometimes his suffering with cancer was so great that he would have preferred to simply die. He couldn't imagine making Duke undergo scary, painful medical procedures without having the intelligence or perspective that we would have as humans.

Obviously, I'm writing all this in hopes that it helps you somehow. I am so sorry for your loss, and I hope your other fuzzy guys help to comfort you.

And I hope this next comment isn't unwelcome. It is well-meant:
I believe our love for pets is something that is very dear to God because it comes out of a tender, childlike part of us. I hope you don't feel ashamed to bring your sorrow before God, whatever that looks like for you.
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