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Do you really want to make the decision of where and how she lives? More importantly, do you really want to be responsible for the content of her last years - thinking you know best but finding out you don't?

Do I want to? No. The question is whether or not I/we should anyway. As I said earlier, if she was a 10-yr old this wouldn't even be a question (and the danger of finding out we didn't know best is the same regardless of age).

We do support her the best we can. And, no, we didn't tell her the ticket was going to be one-way. She was telling us that, really.

I had pretty much come to the conclusion that we should discourage (which we were doing), but if she was determined then make it clear that we weren't escorting her back. We'd take her to the airport, and after that she's on her own (which she claimed she could handle - though we would have arranged wheelchair for her, as we always do when we travel). I still would have worried about 1poorlady's ability not to stress herself to death. However, things have settled (for the moment) and she apparently is staying for now. I say "for now" because this is the second time she's made noises about this.

1poorlady thinks she sees herself as a burden (which, realistically, she is) because she can't see very well (can't even read her Bible anymore, which is a big deal to her). I do think she underestimates the help she gives us with the gardening (even when she does cut one of my poly irrigation lines...usually easy to fix). We'd have to hire someone otherwise. It's just too much for us by ourselves when you consider all the other household stuff (cooking, cleaning, fixing, various projects), plus having to work.

We'll see how long it lasts.
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