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I have been with my new roommate now since Nov.
She is a packrat and also seems to have an allergic reaction to picking up after herself.
I knew about her habits going into this situation with her but something else is coming up that I hadn't planned on.

I am also now beginning to become a packrat and leave stuff laying where I last used it.
HELP!!
How can I stop this backward slide just when I had started to get really good at keeping things simple and organized??

Thanks all for feedback!

Dasone
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I know the feeling -- "Why am I spending so much time cleaning up *MY* stuff when the house looks a mess anyway? Why do I have to do work that roomie doesn't? It's so much simpler to just leave stuff around!"

You have two choices:
- Clean up both your stuff AND her stuff (i.e. elect yourself Mom)
- Create some kind of external motivation for yourself so that you are forced to clean up your stuff or you suffer consequences

Of course, don't start anything without talking it over with your roommate.
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It's a hotspot virus.
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I have been with my new roommate now since Nov.
She is a packrat and also seems to have an allergic reaction to picking up after herself.
I knew about her habits going into this situation with her but something else is coming up that I hadn't planned on.

I am also now beginning to become a packrat and leave stuff laying where I last used it.
HELP!!
How can I stop this backward slide just when I had started to get really good at keeping things simple and organized??


I wonder if your roommate would agree to let you put her stuff in her room, maybe in a designated box or crate. If you did a quick pick-up each morning andevening, I doubt it would take more than 5 minutes a time to put her stuff away. Then you have the clear visual field that helps you keep your own stuff picked up.

It's natural to want HER to do her own work, but I have found it is more likely to actually WORK, for the one who cares about something to be the one to do it. Trying to teach an adult something she doesn't see a need to learn is an endless problem with no good solution.

I used to do something like this when I had young kids. Each one had a "lost and found" crate in the livingroom bookcase. I'd put their stuff in there and every so often ask them to take theri crate to their room and put stuff away.



Reader99
Can't stand looking at clutter
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