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Author: BeanieMike One star, 50 posts Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: of 757465  
Subject: Re: SO doesn't understand FIRE Date: 9/11/2001 3:12 AM
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Gotta second the suggestion for counseling. There are all kinds of issues here that don't come down to just dollars and cents. Been there and tried lots of the typical sol'ns w/o any lasting success, but after counseling [really started for other issues], your communication on all levels will improve and you learn how to discuss, for example, what a "house" - size, style, location - means to each of you beyond the cost. Then you can both work together on agreed something that will reasonably satisfy both as opposed to something like the "Well, you decided on the last XYZ we bought, so this time I want the ABC." method.

I always hear that $$ is the big communication problem w/ couples, and it may well be. The feelings of [lack of] control of the $$ and what it's spent on will always be there and it'll help to be able to discuss them w/o burying those feelings - and resentments - for years.

Finding a good counselor that you both like will also be tough, but from my experience, the long-term returns will make your life and the whole family's a lot smoother over the years.
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