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Hi Alix,

Currently my parnter and I are in the same situation. I recently got a job that tripled what I was making but it required moving 500KM away from my sweet babu. Over the course of a month we talked it over and decided that we would sell the house, use part of the proceeds to get him certified on J2ee and have him quit his job and move here to look for work. He doesn't really like his job at the present moment anyways, so it's not a real hardship. :)

Before we came up with this plan we went down several avenues to see what we could do to be together. We looked at telecommuting, transfers, shortened working weeks and job searching as a way to get him here.

Have you thought about spending, say, six months establishing a good reputation in your new jobs and then seeking a transfer? It might be possible. Or maybe if he has to do a lot of travel for him job he could telecommute from home and travel in to the office less frequently?

It's a slightly different situation (not married, no kids) but I understand how hard it can be to cope with the distances. We faithfully e-mail each other back and forth many times during the day. Which isn't always an option but it sure saves on phone bills. In fact we are horribly mushy and kissy faced. Let's hope they're not watching my e-mail. ;)

Hope this helps somewhat.

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