Hi, Megan!

It is clear that you are hurting with regards to this situation. Big virtual hugs to you - friendships can be so hard sometimes!

Only you get to decide whether or not you care about her. You can continue to care, AND back away from her, which may be the best option. If she insists that you 'prove' you care about her, she will ALWAYS continue to insist that you prove that you care because she is insecure, and *nothing* you do will be enough to prove to her that you care.

You are *not* responsible for her feelings of worthlessness or abandonment in any way, shape or form. Only she can deal with that, and she is setting herself up for being abandoned by insisting that you prove you care. By having all these conditions and saying 'just give up on me so I can stop hoping and hurting,' she is telling you what she really wants, in a weird kind of way. And by choosing not to meet them, she will be able to say, 'See? You don't really care about me, so this is all your fault.'

But it isn't your fault and never was - true friendship does not require conditions to be met or other friendships to be severed in order to maintain it.

And it is ABSOLUTELY okay to give up on a friendship if maintaining it is painful = why would you want to maintain a friendship that is painful? True friendship is fun and easy, and doesn't require 'proof'.

Best of luck with this situation, and keep us posted on your thoughts, decisions, actions, etc. You deserve to have real friends who care about you and don't require proof of your affection.

Blessings,
Cassandra