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Hi, Tig...

I'm not a step-parent yet, just an adoptive parent, but I still get "you're not my real mom" and "if dad were still alive it would be different". I am close with a wonderful guy that I am hoping will propose within the next year...(long story)and I do have a relationship of sorts with his children. They all live far away, so it's not the same. I'm assuming your step-daughter lives with you at least part of the time. You do have a right to "make rules" when she is's your house. But I understand about the fine line between establishing boundaries and trying to have a positive influence that might not be welcomed. I've had to learn to not offer advice except when it's asked for, but it's a different situation.

Maybe the best you can do is lead by example and hope that if she feels she's in over her head she'll feel freer to come to you.

Thoughtfully, Sock
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