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Author: CBohner Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: of 57325  
Subject: I Blew It Date: 11/2/1999 7:36 AM
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I made it almost 24 hours yesterday. Bought some of the gum and was chewing like mad, but by 8:00 last night, I couldn't stand myself. Went out and bought a pack of cigarettes and smoked one. It tasted awful -- but my mood was better and I was much less stressed.

HELP!!! How do I get beyond this? I am so mad at myself for giving in. And now, I have 19 cigarettes that are singing my name.

What do I do from here? I really need your input. Just knowing you guys are out there is great. Most of my friends smoke, so I think part of me is worried about what is going to happen to my "life" when I quit.

Did any of you go through those "Smokenders" or whatever they're called? I'm not sure how to beat the physical craving and the psychological craving at the same time.

At this point, I'll listen to any advice you have.

Christine
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Author: jporn One star, 50 posts Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 799 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/2/1999 9:11 AM
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You didn't blow it, you inhaled. Don't beat yourself up for "cheating." Just take the rest of the pack and pitch it. Then you'll have 19 cigarettes cursing your name.

If you buy a pack, smoke one, and throw the pack away, eventually you'll be broke. Then you won't be able to afford a pack.

Keep in mind as well that if your taking nicotine replacement, you are risking some serious side effects if you smoke. Plus your body isn't screaming for the smoke, your mind is. Give it something else to do.

Make yourself come here and post before you smoke another. Keep posting until the urge goes away.

jporn

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Author: gsspence One star, 50 posts Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 802 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/2/1999 11:16 AM
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Hey Christine--

What method are you using? If it's cold turkey, no wonder. I haven't met anyone yet who:
a: has begun the Zyban program
b: has been committed to quitting
c: has not enjoyed some level of success

I started posting about a week ago. Read my previous posts. I'm in the process of quitting too. It's not a cakewalk, the first few days may be difficult, etc. Allow me to let you in on my frame of mind:

I am responsible for the fact that I smoke. I made the decision to start and continue to smoke. No one else is to blame for my smoking. I might as well not feel sorry for myself. It behooves no one. I was weak, but I have decided to change that. I will beat this. I will not put any more money in Philip Morris' shareholder pockets. Whenever I want to smoke, I say to myself "Screw Philip Morris".

My wife teaches school, and I believe one of the biggest problems with children today is the lack of accepting responsibility for their actions. However, this isn't the children's fault. It is the parents. They allow this behavior to go on.

In this process of thought, I must take responsibility as well. I will do this. I will not start back. I will not die young. I will not leave my wife a widow because I smoke. I will not leave my children without a father because I smoke. I stink when I smoke. I look foolish (definitely not Foolish) when I smoke. My car smells because I smoke. I go outside in 20 degree weather because I smoke. When I get sick, it takes me longer to get well because I smoke.

Look at the non smokers around you. Why don't they smoke? How come they don't crave cigarettes? Do the majority of people quit, and then start back. Sure. Do you want to be one of them? That's up to you.

I, as others have mentioned, treat this much the way AA treats alchohol. I don't think I will ever be "cured". I will deal with this the rest of my life. Sometimes, it won't even cross my mind. Others I will have to deal with it to a level, but I know that it will get better.

Look. The decision is yours. You have the knowledge to be successful. Will you want to be around your friends less because they still smoke? Possibly. Is that worth adding years to your life. Again, it's up to you.

For visual support, check out http://www.1tmc.com/~sfc/lungs.htm .

I wish you the best of luck, but more so the best of perseverence,
Spence

One month, one week, three days, 1 hour, 12 minutes and 55 seconds. 801 cigarettes not smoked, saving $90.11. Life saved: 2 days, 18 hours, 45 minutes.


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Author: jporn One star, 50 posts Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 803 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/2/1999 11:31 AM
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Egads Spence,

The lung pictures are really graphic. Scary to think that may be how my lungs are now.

jporn
Five days, 12 hours, 31 minutes and 32 seconds. 110 cigarettes not smoked, saving $20.15. Life saved: 9 hours, 10 minutes.


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Author: gsspence One star, 50 posts Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 805 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/2/1999 11:48 AM
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You can also go to the URL, and click on "When you Quit". That should be encouraging if nothing else is.

Also, a bit of me would like to apologize for being so cold/graphic/unfeeling, but I can not. We must decide that this is a *must*, and not an option.

My .02,
Spence

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Author: CBohner Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 806 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/2/1999 11:48 AM
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Jim:

Good thoughts! Unbelievably, today is much easier than yesterday. It's as if that one smoke last night got me over the hump. I haven't had one since then nor have I really wanted one.

Thanks for the encouragement.

Christine

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Author: CBohner Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 807 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/2/1999 11:50 AM
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Spence:

Great post! Thanks. I printed it out and put it on the wall next to my computer.

Christine

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Author: jporn One star, 50 posts Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 808 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/2/1999 12:27 PM
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Christine
Great idea.
I printed it to and put it on the wall of my cube next to the picture of the wife. It definately makes my wife look better.

Spence don't apologize for being cold. This is a great reality check. Now excuse me while I dose myself with Zyban again and melt away....

jporn
Five days, 13 hours, 27 minutes and 54 seconds. 111 cigarettes not smoked, saving $20.30. Life saved: 9 hours, 15 minutes.


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Author: TomGardner Big red star, 1000 posts Old School Fool CAPS All Star Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 809 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/2/1999 1:30 PM
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Christine,

The following words from your note are very promising:

"Went out and bought a
pack of cigarettes and
smoked one. It tasted
awful..."

You found them distasteful and didn't smoke the other nineteen cigarettes. Failure? You blew it? I think the opposite is true. You're beginning to reject cigarettes. You are tasting success now for the first time.

You have a few weeks more of physical addiction to conquer. At that point, you'll be engaged in the mindgame. Yesterday brought your first victory of the mind. Build on it!

Tom

P.S. What to do with the nineteen cigarettes? I like the idea of dropping them in a tin can of water, putting a lid on it, and then inhaling the nasty smell from it whenever you feel a strong urge oncoming.

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Author: beccapooka Big gold star, 5000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 813 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/2/1999 3:11 PM
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Christine,

Please don't be defeated. Get rid of those cigarettes (not by smoking them, I hope) and start again. Don't buy more. Remember that it will get easier as the time progresses. You didn't fail. You just slipped. Happens to the best of it. Don't let that stop you from reaching your ultimate goal.

Rebecca
One month, four weeks, 22 hours, 43 minutes and 29 seconds. 1768 cigarettes not smoked, saving $229.89. Life saved: 6 days, 3 hours, 20 minutes.


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Author: CBohner Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 819 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/2/1999 4:32 PM
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Not a bad idea about the tin can. May do that when I get home tonight.

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Author: CaDreamer Big red star, 1000 posts Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 825 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/3/1999 1:33 AM
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Christine, I know by reading the posts after this that you made it past this bump. HURRAH!!

And a bump is all it was.

On track again..........good girl!!!!!!!!!

CaDreamer--wondering what you did with the other 19 cigs?

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Author: CBohner Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 831 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/3/1999 7:39 AM
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I threw them out. There goes $3.75 down the drain, but good in the long run.

Thanks for the support.

Christine

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Author: jporn One star, 50 posts Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 833 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/3/1999 8:45 AM
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Great Christine!

Good decision. The $3.75 you squandered on the cigarettes in nothing compared to the medical expenses associated with lung cancer.

I'm using procrastination as great means to overcome cravings. I just put off having the cigarette. The next time the cravings take you over, put off having the smoke and come here and post.

Take care

jporn

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Author: strnr Big red star, 1000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 835 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/3/1999 9:13 AM
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Good choice Christine

<<<I threw them out. There goes $3.75 down the drain, but good in the long run.>>>

Remember, the $3.75 when down the drain when you bought them. Throwing them out didn't cost you anything.

It's OK to stumble and fall, we've all done it. Just keep your focus on the end result, and pick yourself up and take another step forward. You can do it.

Steve T


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Author: TomGardner Big red star, 1000 posts Old School Fool CAPS All Star Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 836 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/3/1999 9:32 AM
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Actually, Christine, not only did throwing them out NOT cost you anything, it made you money. The insurance costs down the line, and the savings from not buying more cigarettes, will likely result in a benefit valued at hundreds of thousands or millions of dollars.

Your decision to discard that $3.75 pack will likely be the best investment you'll ever make.

Tom

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Author: CaDreamer Big red star, 1000 posts Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 855 of 57325
Subject: Re: I Blew It Date: 11/4/1999 9:03 PM
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Christine--that will be the best $3.75 you ever invested.

CaDreamer

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