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I have teens. Three girls at 18,16,14 and Becca will be 13 in October.
One boy who's 8.


Are they in private school or public? Big difference!

I raised my kids in Grand Haven because it was/is a Christian community.
Mostly run by Christian Reformed who believe in legislating morality.
I'm a total hypocrite, I know, because, in general, I don't believe this works. But in a small(then) town, it makes for a safe atmosphere for kids. Most of their teachers were Christians--no preaching, but a general atmosphere of believers teaching "love thy neighbor."

But, by high school, there was this "sophmore" class parents had to sign for--- a "forum"? Anyway, that is where they taught the sex ed, and other controversial topics. I actually don't KNOW what all they taught. I didn't mind the sex ed so much, we had already talked about it at home.
BUT, they had the Health Dept. people come in and tell them about their "rights" to birth control, FREE, and all the info on STD's(that was OK, too.)
Problem? The next year, my youngest daughter came home one day and asked if I thought she should have a "PAP" test. I told her she was still pretty young (just 17), and then asked if she was worried about something. She said the other girls were getting them and shouldn't she, too? I said, it couldn't hurt, but I'd rather she went to our family doctor. Well, she already had an appointment at the Health Dept.
I said, OK. But, said our family doctor knew her inside and out and could do a better job because of that. No, she didn't want him doing "this"----felt better going to a stranger.
A few days later, she came in later than usual, and said it was "over."
I laughed and said, "Fun, huh?" Then, I got to thinking----and I just
blurted out---"Honey, did you go there for birth control?" She looked at the floor.
AGH! That doctor gave her birth control pills! What if she had had problems? Neither her doctor or I would have known! I couldn't take them.
She had no problems, but I was so angry! If she hadn't KNOWN they gave that stuff out, free and no questions asked, she would never have thought of it. Her boyfriend didn't even want her on birth control!!
But, taking after her stubborn mother--she stayed on it and I shut up.
But I did and still do feel like Big Brother was taking over. My hands were tied.

Still not over it--
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