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I know that SoccerDad said DW was on board, but I haven't really heard him say that she really knows and understands the issue. I don't think we can say she will or won't do what it takes to dig out of this mess because I'm not as sure as everyone else that she understands the severity of the situation.

You have a point that we're all just guessing. However, there are clues that it's more than she just doesn't understand. She has carefully insulated herself from consequences:

1. Getting upset during discussions because of her "math and debt anxiety"
2. Insecurity about the accident that she relies on to prevent too much truth being issued to her
3. Negotiating not having to work in spite of having school-age children
4. Driving a brand new car while not working and letting her husband drive an unsafe car during an 1.5 hr commute

SoccerDad says she hates math and dealing with money, so I'm wondering if, knowing that, he has not actually given her the complete picture. Has he sat down with her with a list of all their bills as he has presented here, and shown her the budget so that she can really see how bad off they are? Does she know the total amount of what is owed?

It's easy to blame SoccerDad for not telling her, but it seems more likely he's tried and she's kept the truth at bay.

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