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Author: ellaluna Big red star, 1000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: of 274  
Subject: Re: Dating Advice Date: 8/3/2004 2:04 PM
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I read the whole thread on the singles board, and perhaps missed it, but did not see any mention of children. Does he have any? How about his wife's family

No, they never had any children. It wasn't possible because they were more worried about treating her. His wife's family was difficult when she was alive and did not offer support to him or her while she was undergoing treatment. Now that she is gone, he has no desire to continue a relationship with them, as they have been even less supportive since her death.

I suspect "dating" someone is going to be very uncomfortable for me, if and when it ever happens. I was married and faithful to my wife for 33+ years. Reasonable or not, I would still feel like I'm cheating on her at this point. I hope that will change, because I really don't look forward to growing old alone. I hate being alone.


I was reading about dating a widow last night, and one of the things that hit me pretty hard is that every step is difficult. I think the phrase used was "fits and starts". I think that no matter how ready you think you are, no matter how long it has been, there are still going to be emotions that come up. I am trying to recognize that and separate my own insecurities from the emotions he is going through right now.

It was a good article, here's the link if you want to read it:

http://www.authorsden.com/visit/viewarticle.asp?AuthorID=6783&id=10858

Thanks Ralph. I appreciate your thoughts.

ellaluna
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