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I would question whether he, at 80, .... He retired "early" at 58....
We are also getting a chance to say our goodbyes.

FWIW... My Dad exited this life abruptly at 65, six months after he had retired. I was at the tender age of 27. He was my last elder.

Having not had the opportunity for myself, my gratuitous advice is that saying your goodbyes is the singular priority you face until he leaves.

I never got the chance to tell him all of those "things" that I felt; or to ask him any of the questions that he could have given me insight to; to understand him truly; or to share my new family and professional success with him. What the hell do most single, introverted 27 year olds know?

If there is a "best case scenario" for dying, his was it: a massive arrythmia, shutdown, probably never knew what hit him - and he left me a substantial real estate inheritance. But - being purely emotionally self-indulgent - dealing with the rug being pulled out, getting little adult guidance, and knowing that he was just hitting his post-work stride has affected every aspect of my life. No whining, for crissake - he was the one who died, after all...

My list of "I wish"es is very, very long.

Make sure yours is short, and that, regardless of how embarrassing he thinks it is, he knows what you mean to him.

Peace, and strength,
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