Message Font: Serif | Sans-Serif
 
UnThreaded | Threaded | Whole Thread (5) | Ignore Thread Prev | Next
Author: scaryblondechick Big gold star, 5000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: of 274  
Subject: Re: Memorial Date: 3/17/2005 7:42 AM
Post New | Post Reply | Reply Later | Create Poll . Report this Post | Recommend it!
Recommendations: 4
It was serendipitous that when DH's remains were finally found after 9/11, the Unitarian church at which we were married was already in the process of developing and landscaping a memorial garden with an open columbarium to hold cremated remains yet allow them to degrade naturally over time. Originally I had been planning to scatter his remains, but his family had objections.

DH loved water, and the original landscape design for the garden had included a fountain, but it had not been installed due to the expense (they were very sparsely funded). Working directly with the landscape designer and a local supplier, I helped choose a large raw stone which was drilled, piped, and fitted with a pump, and the supplier assisted us in finding an electrician who ran a buried line from the pump to the exterior of the church, where a switch was installed; the electrician performed this work at cost.

I endowed the entire cost, which ended up being just over $3000 -- fairly reasonable for a permanent memorial, I felt. Another of my husband's relatives has contributed annually for ongoing maintenance, about $250/year.

The members and pastor of the church have been very gracious in their thanks, and everyone seems to feel that the fountain is a final finishing touch to the garden. DH's ashes were interred in the columbarium there, and I cannot think of a better spot for them.

I feel sure that if you choose to make a similar endowment to your church, both you and your church will derive great satisfaction from the serene beauty it will lend to its surroundings.
Post New | Post Reply | Reply Later | Create Poll . Report this Post | Recommend it!
Print the post  
UnThreaded | Threaded | Whole Thread (5) | Ignore Thread Prev | Next

Announcements

Post of the Day:
Macro Economics

The Future, or What's Left of It
What was Your Dumbest Investment?
Share it with us -- and learn from others' stories of flubs.
When Life Gives You Lemons
We all have had hardships and made poor decisions. The important thing is how we respond and grow. Read the story of a Fool who started from nothing, and looks to gain everything.
Community Home
Speak Your Mind, Start Your Blog, Rate Your Stocks

Community Team Fools - who are those TMF's?
Contact Us
Contact Customer Service and other Fool departments here.
Work for Fools?
Winner of the Washingtonian great places to work, and "#1 Media Company to Work For" (BusinessInsider 2011)! Have access to all of TMF's online and email products for FREE, and be paid for your contributions to TMF! Click the link and start your Fool career.
Advertisement