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<i<I wonder if they will ever figure out that self-esteem comes from finding out what you are able to achieve. It isn't something that's just handed to the kids

I remember posting about this a month or two ago on another board.

I know most parents hate to see thier children when they hurt or suffer, but if you take away the pain of losing away, they will not know how to deal with it when they get older.

Part of losing is learning how to deal with your pain and how to move on. Sometime you can figure out how you can do better, other times, you find you just need to move on.

I found out in 8-9th grade that I just couldn't jump well enough to play basketball, no matter how hard I tried. Even though I was 6'4, I got my butt kicked as a center. It really sucked and I was really upset. I really liked basketball, but I just didn't have the legs for it. In the end, I picked another sport which I would have never tried and did much better in it. I never thought I would love swimming, but I did and made the varsity team my freshman year.

I learned how to deal with losing at an early age, both from my parents and through school. I lost spelling bees, relay races, and sucked at kick-ball. Sure, it was painfull, but I learned how to deal with it, many times with the help of a parent, a teacher, or some other adult in the community. Not one of them suggested that these contests should be banned or that they wished everyone could be a winner.

I'd sure hate to be entering the job market, not knowing what it feels like to loose. It would be very hard figuring out that everything you do work wise is competion based, from the interview, to raises and promotions. Talk about blowing one's self-esteeem.

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