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<< He seems to be wanting to learn what letters say in books, maybe I should teach him how to read >>

DEFINITELY do this! Better to have a bored smart kid than to deny him skills he's capable of just to make school challenging. H*ck, if he's bright enough, perhaps homeschooling or a combination of homeschooling and regular school will work.

<< I understand entirely where he's coming from because believe it or not, I used to have the same thoughts about the adults in my family, >>

Kids pick up the values their parents have, whether you'd like them to or not! Mebbe as MIL how she raised your husband, lol.

<< I think my initial mistake was reacting with horror when he headbutted the wall or choked to make himself sick - probably if I'd ignored him, he would've stopped it as it wasn't having the required effect on me >>

NO. Don't ignore the kid. Disclipine him. He wants attention. You just need to tell him the right ways to get positive attention. (Sorta like the guy in high school who wanted to date you all the time.)

<< It's just that he's incredibly stubborn and supremely demanding. .... Of course, when he's speaking we all have to shut up and listen. >>

NO YOU DON'T!!! None of this "life is fair" stuff, or "kids are the center of the universe" nonsense. The more you give, the more he takes. (Sorta like your bank...) Set limits, make rules, stick with the rules, be consistent.

<< I give up, my brain hurts trying to psycho-analyse / outsmart him. >>

Don't. Lay down the law and make sure he knows you're a parent first, and everything else second. If it helps, go get that Bill Cosby record called Parenting (or was that Fatherhood -- sorry!)!

You're the boss of the house. He isn't.

Washu! ^O^
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