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Nope. As I've said before, here and elsewhere, I'm glad and grateful to have been a SAH Mom.

I remember when my daughter was still an infant, and when I first realized that I wanted to be home with her all the time. I put her in her crib, on her tummy (which was the prevailing wisdom then), and had to leave the room for maybe half a minute. When I came back in, she was on her back, grinning, arms and legs flailing. I missed the first time she turned over and I still wish I had seen it. I remember thinking, "What if the babysitter had seen it and been the one to tell me about this (okay, so maybe I'm exaggerating <g>) milestone? What if the babysitter didn't even tell me?"

On the professional side, I'd had a job I absolutely loved which I had to give up. The next two jobs, including the one I quit just before I had my daughter, were not enjoyable, personally or professionally, and certainly not well-paying enough to even consider going back as an employed Mom. What I was giving up in terms of employment was nothing compared to what I would have had to give up if I couldn't have been with my kids, both as little ones and bigger ones.

I might have felt differently if the job was the ideal one. Sometimes I've wondered "what if," but who hasn't? I'm very happy with our choices (and it is certainly a family decision, not a unilateral one) because it's allowed me to be the parent I want to be. Well, I suppose I should admit that there's always room for improvement (more patient, better organized, more creative, etc.), but that's part of my life, too.

So, simply -- no, no regrets. As some song says, "I wouldn't have missed it for the world."

~~ Alison
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