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<<we're newlyweds so I'm not completely used to the idea of sharing all expenses yet....It seems pretty obvious that what's happening is that I'm helping him pay his taxes. If I made more money I wouldn't mind that but we make about the same salary over all and try to split most things down the middle to avoid any bitter feelings over who's spending how much on what.>>

Um, you guys better sit down and decide if you are a married couple or just a couple of roommates. Married: that old "two shall be as one" business, as the song goes.

Keep on this "I'm paying his taxes" track and you're likely to be ex-married before long.

Best idea: Dump all the paychecks into a joint account and each of you take an appropriate allowance from the pot. Treating things as "one pays some things and one pays other things" gets pretty corrosive pretty quick. How many car payments equals how many rent payments? Each of you if gonna think that the other is screwing him. What's gonna happen if a baby comes along and suddenly "you guys" (i.e., you and the baby) aren't paying your half of the bills?

As for taxes, estimate your overall tax bill, and set things up so that a proportional dollar amount gets deducted from each paycheck. Not each person--each paycheck. If one of you has a 2nd job, that 3 paychecks, not two.

Just my opinion--and I've probably been married longer that you have been alive.

Good luck,
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