Maureen,

Personally, I don't believe you owe this guy anything. If he continues to say you do then I would add up the cost of all this stuff that LEGALLY you co own, subtract off the 50K and then present him with the bill.

Even if you didn't co own all that stuff, I feel you don't owe him the 50K. He was equally responsible for keeping track of what's was going on financially in your marriage. He should just deal with his lack of responsiblity and eat the loss.

Don't let him guilt you into paying him something you don't owe him. Just say no.

Lael