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Author: inparadise Big funky green star, 20000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: of 2194  
Subject: Re: Kid accepted to college; ideas for support Date: 1/15/2013 10:37 AM
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...mine weren't on a required phone schedule.

Make no mistake, the phone calls are something I need, not something he needs. He knows that too, that he is part of a family and needs to give as well as take, that others feelings are important and the world does not revolve around him.

No, I am not going to buy my kid condoms, and I won't be there to put it on for him either. I also won't buy alcohol or drugs for him, though I know some parents do, and I know he has access. It is my job to teach. He knows that IMO if a kid can't man up enough to walk into health services or a drug store and get his/her own condoms, then they darned well are not emotionally mature enough to have sex. It was not a secret agenda and I made it very clear what he needed to do to get them, and that his ability to do so was only one small step of many towards reaching the maturity that would allow him to have a healthy sex life.

Yes, I have discussed with him my beliefs, expressed to him that just because I sit there calmly talking with him about sex, drugs, and alcohol does not mean that I think that those things are appropriate at this time, rather that I want him educated to know enough to know when it is appropriate for him. He needs to take control, I cede it to him.

I am glad that what you did worked for you, that there are many ways to address the same subject. However I felt another point of view would add balance to a thread that was quickly becoming a rec fest to all those posts that simply said throw condoms at them. Sure, lets all giggle at the word condom, like we are 13, instead of treating it as an important tool in preventing potential negative repercussions of an active sex life. The fact that I replied to your post was simply due to it being the last of the thread. We are both entitled to expressing our opinions. In the end there are many ways to parent, and it has to be tailored to each kid, even within the same family.

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