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More like unlearning the mindset of assuming every poor person is scum. This sounds pretty ingrained. Good for you for wanting to help open his eyes but i'm at a loss as to how to go about it (other than by continuing to set a stellar example).

Yes, at this point, I think it's deeply ingrained, but not completely impossible. There's an unexpected charible spirit he expresses sometimes, or what I'm calling his latent compassion.

I'm hopeful it's possible to turn him around even at this age, though I'm sure it would have been easier at 8, or 12. Certainly it's easier now, than if at 30, or 50.

For arguments sake, let's go ahead and say, sure, the parents don't deserve to be helped. Their kids, however, are at, exactly? Would he consider doing something for the kid(s) of the poor family?

Yes, it's an angle: thanks for reminding me to work on that. Sometimes he expresses sympathy, but usually only when he can (will) recognize some aspect in which he realizes, "hey, they are like me!" I'm trying to work on his ability to recognize they are real individuals and not just "those" types of people he grew up deriding. It's very hard, but I'm hoping he's just a late bloomer. :)
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