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mw5280: "I'm here to commit to paying off debt, not psychoanalysis."

mapletree: "How's that worked out so far?"

To follow up on mapletree's quip, I am going to suggest that several years' worth of repeating failed patterns cannot be changed without deep, honest self-reflection.

In my case, deep, honest self-reflection about ten years ago showed me that 40 years' worth of diet and exercise plans repeatedly failed because I had failed to identify certain root causes - a need to change too much too soon, a need to see tangible results every week, a need to push myself too hard, all of which caused me to try too hard and to give up again and again.

Once I decided to take baby steps, such as walking an hour a day rather than running, giving up sodas one year and french fries the next rather than going on diets, I slowly changed my life for the better and have kept it changed for ten years.

You may again be repeating a doomed pattern of trying to do too much, to soon if you do not understand the root causes of your behaviour.

I would suggest you ask yourself, "what really makes me happy?" and perhaps, "can I make myself happier by learning to want less and to need less?"

Can I be happier by cooking meals for the following work week rather than eating out so often?

Can I be happier by reading more library books and depending less on expensive technological entertainment?

Can I be happier by staying home all day and not using the car?


Repeating failed patterns require serious, deep self reflection that borders on psychoanalysis.

Mapletree's quip was pointed but perhaps insightful.
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