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My wife and I are both active duty Navy (O-3s). Currently we are considering if one or both of us should leave the service. We would be eligible for retirement in 2016 probably as O-5's and we would have a very nice retirement income. The biggest problem for us is the amount of time we spend apart from each other. Out of seven and a half years of service we have been deployed or stationed apart for more than four years.

There are so many variables in your situation, that only the two of you can make the decision on what you want to do.

However, I would say that one of you should leave active duty service. Which one is a matter of decision. If either of you stay on active duty, who has the higher chance of going to sea? Who has the better odds of making a higher rank? Which one has skills that are more easily transferable to civilian life and getting a job on or close to a military base somewhere in the world? Which one of you is less inclined to have to have a career? That means, if you are a civilian, can you accept doing three years in a "career" type job, and then quitting it so that you can follow your spouse to her 3 year tour of duty in Puerto Rico?

Whoever, if either of you, leaves active duty, I would highly suggest that that person go into the Navy Reserves. The downside to this is that now days it seems Reservists have a stronger chance of getting deployed somewhere.

Good luck in your decision and keep us posted on what happens.
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