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"There are objective criteria. You wish there weren't so you could continue with the hatin', but there are. The nice guy is willing to 1. identify his partner's likes and dislikes and 2. compromise on his own likes and dislikes in order to form a more equal partnership. The doormat is either so lame he has no real likes or dislikes, which is creepy, or is so underhanded that he pretends to have none in order to give the impression of being a nice guy, which is dishonest."

This is so succinct. Erik, if you are monitoring any of this, please do pay attention to the difference as 6 has so able-y laid out.

Embrace that finer aspect within yourself & jetison the lazy doormat notions for good.


No. They are purely subjective criteria.

But of course, the typical female believes her personal opinions are "the truth."

Not knowing the difference between one's subjective preferences, and "objective" criteria, is a perfect example of being completely illogical.

You are an acceptable male ("nice guy") because you express your preference for Borat, rather than simply say "whatever"?

The experienced male is always going to say "whatever" because he knows the choice of what to do that evening has already been made by the female. The typical female reaction would be to say, "What? You think Borat is more important than my sick grandmother???" and then to be angry about it for the next two weeks. So saying "whatever" is simply common sense.

The "nice guy" says "I'll dry the dishes" rather than "let me do everything?"

The normal male would say, "Just put the dishes in the sink. You can take care of them tomorrow." Only a totally whipped male would offer to do the dishes in the first place.

Again: "nice guy" = "guy I am sexually attracted to"

"doormat" = "guy I am not attracted to and want to get rid of"

That's the only difference.
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