It's been a couple of days since my dad passed away, and I have been on the phone and computer mediating between various and voiciferous family factions about scheduling a funeral, who is and is not invited to or refusing to go to the funeral, and who and what should be in the obituary. It makes me want to run away to Alaska and not interact with my family at all. Wait, I already did that....

I'm ready to forget the family drama, and bury myself in other, more cheerful, activities, but I'll go to the funeral as the family peacemaker, and then perhaps I'll be done with family drama for a while.

Any way, I'm glad I went to Boston when I did, and I'm glad that his suffering is over. May he rest in peace.

RDW

I'm glad I went to Boston when I did, and I'm glad that his suffering is over.

Indeed. You're in my prayers. Safe journey.

Phil
Rule Your Retirement Home Fool

thinking of you, sending positive strength vibes to help you through the family emotional throwup...

Makes you wish they could just get along long enough to bury your dad, but they are human and run by emotions.

glad you went, it was important to your Dad and for you too!

(((((((((( RDW ))))))))))

Linda

Safe travels, RDW.
Take care of yourself.

Chili

Safe travels, RDW.
Take care of yourself.

Chili
A/L

You are in our prayers.

Crocket

Safe travels, RDW.
Take care of yourself.

Chili
A/L
Yoda

I'm glad I went to Boston when I did, and I'm glad that his suffering is over. May he rest in peace.

My sincere condolences on your loss, RDW. I'll think good thoughts to help you get through this family drama. (Once again, be good to yourself when you can.)

RIP, RDW's Dad.

Christina, all too familiar with family drama

and then perhaps I'll be done with family drama for a while.

Here's hoping.

As the designee and eldest grandchild taking care of Grandma's arrangements (though she'd done an incredible job of preparation) I began to get really weary of dealing with the fam damily in fairly short order. The cousin who was going through some sort of trauma rendering her more worthless than usual, the self-centered old man, still trying to make things about him and pleading to "not leave the old folks out of things," trying to get people synchronized and keeping the enduring cold war between the divorced aunt and uncle at bay and of course trying to make sure things went the way she wanted and doing my own grieving. Lordy, what a relief when it was over and done and to be frank I'm still unhappy with the one cousin, though her sister was the opposite in every way and I couldn't have done it without her.

This isn't about me, honestly. Just a long, windy way to say I sympathize and wish you only the best, which is certainly what you deserve.

Prof

RDW; hope it won't be too taxing. My condolences...take care of yourself.

My deepest, heartfelt condolances. Safe travels, and may the family waters be calm.

Mike

Safe travels, RDW.
Take care of yourself.

Chili
A/L
Yoda
Bob

Safe travels, RDW.
Take care of yourself.

Chili
A/L
Yoda
Bob
Linda

Safe travels, RDW.
Take care of yourself.

Chili
A/L
Yoda
Bob
Linda
RM

"I'm ready to forget the family drama, and bury myself in other, more cheerful, activities, but I'll go to the funeral as the family peacemaker, and then perhaps I'll be done with family drama for a while."

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

The thing about family drama is that the dramatis personae are
just people who are just as confused and lost as everyone else.
Fathers do not of necessity know best.
Mothers do not always raise, nurture and love unconditionally
or without fsvorites.
The extended family has wants and needs that sometimes exclude.

Experience does not always teach.
Paths taken in error are not always marked "Danger - Thin Ice!"
but in fact are frequently trod deeply as routine passage.

And we all want and need and learning is so hard.
Mistakes are so easy.

But dramas and traumas do end.
We do have choice in how we behave - how we respond.

So as you wish for his peaceful rest - and family members
deal as they can - may you also rest and find peace.

May the grace of God be with you.

Love and good wishes are yours.

Howie52

Blessings on you!! I'm reading this rather late and you're probably back home by now. With many, many thoughts roving around in your head. You did well.

Joan