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So, I've been reading this thread for a while. And I agree that there's a lot to be said and wondered and questioned about an 8th grader who is pregnant. It's probably a tough situation for everyone involved, and the baby is coming into a world that's not exactly what you'd hope for a baby.

But yet there are some good things here. Most importantly, the mom has been to an ob-gyn and is getting prenatal care. That's not always true, and is a hopefuly sign.

And also, although it should not be a distraction in class, this girl has pictures of the fetus growing inside her and cares enough about them to share them with her friends. In doing so, she is starting to make real a situation that is probably completely unreal to her. If she keeps the baby, her life will change in ways that she can't even imagine right now. Any little bit of preparation she gets will help her.

My hope is that her group of friends is strong enough to keep being friends after she's a mom. A girl that age is much more influenced by her peers than her parents (much to all parents' dismay!), so those girls can help her tremendously by just being friendly and accepting her without judging her for her actions.

Pregnancy happens in a lot of different ways, and though we can all rant about how kids should know about and use birth control, the fact is that our biology wins over our thoughts much of the time -- and kids even more than adults. This young girl is a victim of abuse, even if it's only the abuse of two 8th graders who got together without an adult intervening. She and the father, and the baby, deserve support and care, not judgement.

ThyPeace, really hoping the father has copies of the pictures and is showing them to his friends, too. Preferably at lunch time or after school.
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