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Author: TMFRavynous Big gold star, 5000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: of 7313  
Subject: Re: Ethical quandry (long) Date: 4/1/2003 9:05 PM
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Sometimes I see wonderful hand-knits for sale, beautifully made and often far beyond my skills. . .

I buy them. I clean them. I give them as gifts. I NEVER claim to have knitted them myself. Not exactly. When someone asks me to my face "did you knit this yourself?" I reply, "Well, it is hand-knit."


**I feel these two paragraphs should be one, but that's me and you're the expert.**

My gut feeling is Miss Manners would say, (had you written her, on vellum in blue/black ink), "One admires a gift and offers thanks. In polite society one does not inquire about its history." She whould, and I might add, far more eloquently than I can do suggest: don't even imply you might be responsible for handmade items outside of your skill range.

DF, "Ms. E. this quintuple cable sweater is so handsome. My very, very, best friend," **hand to throat, drop in voice, dark whisper,** "who's got only 4 weeks to live, would love an afghan in the same pattern in blues and greens. It would make her last days so happy."

Well, if you've seriously implied you made it, you're going to have to pay Miss Manners a considerable sum for a private consultation to find a way out.

You knit, way cool. YOu give awesome knitted gifts you didn't knit, way cool.

Graciously accept praise for what you've created. For gifts you give, though in your craft "field", you did not create, if comment is necessary simply say, "I'm so pleased you thought I made it." At this point you blush, "I only wish I had the skill to do so." Feel free to blush again at this point.

Strive to improve your skills so you can knit those items you wish you could claim credit for, if that's important to you. However, the most important thing is to enjoy doing your craft.

Claim credit for your work, and derive inspiration from those pieces that move you.

Rav
For advice write: MsManner@ifitspoliteIkNow.com
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