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Author: dianakalt Big gold star, 5000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: of 38739  
Subject: Sorry Date: 10/4/2012 11:37 AM
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My Dearest impolite,

I just got back from Italy and saw all the posts about your FIL. I'm soooo sorry to hear this. I have a gabillion and four thoughts running around in my head about this but for now will just say, I love you guys to pieces and I am sending prayers and good thoughts your way.

Sincerely,
Your good good KC Fool friend
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Author: impolite Big gold star, 5000 posts Top Favorite Fools Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 34208 of 38739
Subject: Re: Sorry Date: 10/4/2012 1:06 PM
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Aw, thanks.

I thought of you during a lot of it actually (CameraNerd's visitation was actually our starting-off point for what we wanted to do for FIL, including CD* and slideshow).

Then again when we were deciding how (and frankly, even if) we could bring ourselves to celebrate Leroy Jethro's 1st birthday this year, as it falls on T's birthday too, and none of us feel like celebrating anything.

It's also the anniversary of CameraNerd passing on that day, which this year will just make it seem even sadder than the previous two with everything else going on. Last year it felt....not good, but not bad....because something good came to us that day. This year is just frankly gonna blow chunks.

{heavy sigh}

impolite


* laugh until you cry moment #482 from last week: while making the CD I kept singing this in my head http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yhuMLpdnOjY

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Author: dianakalt Big gold star, 5000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 34209 of 38739
Subject: Re: Sorry Date: 10/4/2012 1:48 PM
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I thought of you during a lot of it actually (CameraNerd's visitation was actually our starting-off point for what we wanted to do for FIL, including CD* and slideshow).

Well, I throw a helluva funeral, that's for sure. :)

Then again when we were deciding how (and frankly, even if) we could bring ourselves to celebrate Leroy Jethro's 1st birthday this year, as it falls on T's birthday too, and none of us feel like celebrating anything.

It's also the anniversary of CameraNerd passing on that day, which this year will just make it seem even sadder than the previous two with everything else going on. Last year it felt....not good, but not bad....because something good came to us that day. This year is just frankly gonna blow chunks.

{heavy sigh}


You know what? The anniversary of CNs death last year was actually worse for me than the year before...until I got the memo that LJ was born on that day. The first year after you lose a spouse is a) a blur and b) a time when people actually try to support you emotionally. The second year, not so much. I deliberately picked 10/25 in the baby pool because I liked the idea of you having your YAY A BABY moment on the anniversary of CN's death, because he liked you so much and would have been ever so happy to see you and T with him.

My vote? Celebrate your kid's birthday. Maybe do it the day before or after T's birthday, maybe just make it a small thing with your sweet little family. But in any case, please express to the universe that you are having a ball with your little boy and get the obligatory "1 year old faceplants into his first birthday cake" picture for posterity. I don't think you will regret doing that, but you may regret not having a picture of it down the road.

d

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Author: Myownigloo Big funky green star, 20000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 34210 of 38739
Subject: Re: Sorry Date: 10/4/2012 1:54 PM
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My vote? Celebrate your kid's birthday....express to the universe that you are having a ball with your little boy and get the obligatory "1 year old faceplants into his first birthday cake" picture for posterity. I don't think you will regret doing that, but you may regret not having a picture of it down the road.

-D
-MOI <absolutely must have first year face-in-cake photo>

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Author: TMFHunzi Big red star, 1000 posts Home Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 34211 of 38739
Subject: Re: Sorry Date: 10/4/2012 2:55 PM
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My vote? Celebrate your kid's birthday....express to the universe that you are having a ball with your little boy and get the obligatory "1 year old faceplants into his first birthday cake" picture for posterity. I don't think you will regret doing that, but you may regret not having a picture of it down the road.

-D
-MOI <absolutely must have first year face-in-cake photo>
-Hunzi <and seriously, it's time you started posting on FB or sharing someplace so we can actually see the first year face-in-cake photo (I ohh and awww over every pic of some very sweet twins from round here! But yeah I know, No.)>

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Author: TheEvilDrP Big gold star, 5000 posts Old School Fool CAPS All Star Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 34212 of 38739
Subject: Re: Sorry Date: 10/4/2012 8:19 PM
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My vote? Celebrate your kid's birthday....express to the universe that you are having a ball with your little boy and get the obligatory "1 year old faceplants into his first birthday cake" picture for posterity. I don't think you will regret doing that, but you may regret not having a picture of it down the road.

-D
-MOI <absolutely must have first year face-in-cake photo>
-Hunzi <and seriously, it's time you started posting on FB or sharing someplace so we can actually see the first year face-in-cake photo (I ohh and awww over every pic of some very sweet twins from round here! But yeah I know, No.)>
-Minxie <I also vote for celebrating Leroy Jethro's b-day, for T if no other reason.>

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Author: Patzer Big gold star, 5000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: 34214 of 38739
Subject: Re: Sorry Date: 10/5/2012 9:15 AM
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Like Diana, I missed the news in real time. My deepest condolences for your loss. It's always hard to lose a parent, and it's harder when it happens unexpectedly or sooner than the world would expect.

On the concern about how it affects LJ: I had a grandfather die in his 50s, when I was too young to remember. I expect LJ will remember a lot of stories about his grandpa, and be sure you have pictures for him to see. Oh, and a relationship with his grandma is probably even more important with grandpa gone. I have very fond memories of the grandma who lived almost 3 decades longer than her husband.

Diana says: My vote? Celebrate your kid's birthday. Maybe do it the day before or after T's birthday, maybe just make it a small thing with your sweet little family. But in any case, please express to the universe that you are having a ball with your little boy and get the obligatory "1 year old faceplants into his first birthday cake" picture for posterity. I don't think you will regret doing that, but you may regret not having a picture of it down the road.

I'd say celebrate it on the actual day, and make a big deal out of it being both T's birthday and LJ's. Sharing a birthday with his father is something special LJ has that most kids don't have. My vote would be to make it special for LJ and T both, rather than trying to separate it and give them each a day. If T is the kind of father I've heard you talking about, he'll be great at making the day special for LJ.

Patzer

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