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Discussion this week centers on whether DD did or did not say "I don't care if I die or not!" at school. DD admantly insists that she said no such thing. DD's BFF adamantly insists that she did. Personally, I no longer really care. DD was having a bad day and, at the old age of 10, started her period two days later. The stresses she finally admitted to were all kid-appropriate (her little brother pesters her, she doesn't have her dolls at both houses, she doesn't get enough play time with her BFF).

Even so, the whole thing has drummed up Drama at the adult and at the kid level. Poor DD probably wishes she'd never said anything to anyone at any time, ever. The Drama arises partly from the girls, who at age 10 are just starting to experiment with the power of words. That could easily be defused. But unfortunately, one of the adults involved is manipulative and ... I don't know the right word, but it's almost impossible to set a reasonable boundary and have her respect it like a grownup. The most recent example was when, "We have standing plans on that day of the week, so we can't see your child then. How about another day?" led to attacks (from the adult, mind you!) on the child of the people we see on that day. This is the most recent in a series of interactions ranging from not-quite-right to downright awful.

Bah. I need a strong backbone to set the appropriate boundary here. DD may end up not being able to see her BFF very much because of this, which is not so great. The BFF is young and impressionable, but her heart is in the right place. The adult in question, however, is BFF's guardian and they come together as a pair.

ThyPeace, really not interested in participating in kid-based drama.
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