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I am worried about my DH.

DH's father died last week. FIL had been living on borrowed time with emphysema and heart problems and all, but it was still a shock. DH didn't get to the hospital in time to say goodbye, and I think that bothers him. I am learning that death does weird things to the people left behind.

Case in point, we lost power for a couple days last week. Not nearly as long as it could have been, but still a major pain the butt at a really bad time. When we came home from Cordell, DH decided we needed to throw out everything in the fridge--even stuff that I had put in the garage where it would stay cold. I started to argue but in the end decided it wasn't worth it. Then he decided he would wipe down the empty fridge. Normally I would be excited about him volunteering to do this, but he wasn't in a good state of mind. He removed one of the glass shelves and put in in the sink under hot running water. Yep, cold glass under hot water. It shattered into a million pieces all over the kitchen. There were some dirty dishes in the sink, so we had to slowly remove the broken glass from the baby bottles and the coffee mugs and the spaghetti sauce pan. And sweep and sweep the floor. Not fun, and DH's attitude made it even worse.

DH missed work for most of last week and now is trying to catch up. I think this is probably a good thing, even though he is stressed out about that too. I keep telling him to be patient with himself, but he just blows me off with negative comments like "The work doesn't care."

Thank you notes. We had lots of them to write because DH is an only child, and we didn't want MIL to do them all herself. Trying to keep the kids quiet so DH could concentrate was not fun. DH obsessing over spelling and wording was not fun either. At one point he just started crying. I told him I would take over, but he didn't want me to. I suggested that he just do a few each day, but he wanted to get them over with. What do you do with a man who is breaking up inside but won't accept help? Just hug him, I guess. That is what I did, anyway.

Your prayers would be appreciated. Thanks for letting me vent.

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