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Hi all - long time no post!!!

My twin girls turned 9 yesterday. One of them - S - is a smart girl who cares deeply about doing well. She is organized, does her homework, loves to read, practices piano, makes her bed every day, etc. Has several good friends. Such an amazing good kid.

The other - G (always a difficult, rather bossy child)- is very smart. She was literally the smartest kid and best reader in her 1st grade class, singled out to read books to the rest of the class. Standardized tests in 1st and 2nd grade showed her to be in the 99th percentile nationally in most categories evaluated. In second grade, she did fine - nearly all As. Her interest in reading flagged towards the end of the year but she met all goals. This year (3rd grade) she is doing pretty poorly. Her test/quiz grades range from the 50s to the 90s. She says she hates to read (though she occasionally enjoys some books all considered below her level.) She tested lower this year than last year on something called the Star reading assessment. !!! She's incredibly disorganized, rushes through homework, relies on her sister to tell her what homework she has, skips over critical directions. Her teacher is not the best this year but DH and I I really don't think that's the cause. We are actually meeting with her teacher tomorrow morning.

(one bright note - this year G is the only 3rd grader that was admitted to "Advanced Orchestra." Everyone else is 4th or 5th grade. This is not due to a whole lot of practicing but just her amazing inherent talent. She can pick songs out by ear - fast - and they sound half decent. Amazing.)

I have started having G read to me out loud in the evenings. She seems to do ok when she has to read out loud to me. I do notice that there are really obvious words (recent example "activities") that seem obvious but that she doesn't recognize or (in other instances) doesn't know the meaning. She gets very frustrated with words she can't identify and, rather than ask about them or look them up, she just puts the book down (forever) when reading to herself. When reading to me, I can help her with those which she seems to appreciate.

Help!! I have had many serious sit-downs with her where I explain how important it is to do well in school, how I feel certain she can do better, etc. Her grades are suffering in every area - reading, math, social studies.

If you have any suggestions at all - things we should try, books we should read, specialists we should consult, etc. please let me know.

Thanks so very much in advance for any thoughts.
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