Thanks for the hugs!!The VA has different levels of services offered depending on the percentage of the disability. Dh is currently @ 40%, but has 2 claims pending that will take him to at least 70%.There is something called Aid & Attendance that kicks in, but I'm not sure at what percentage it is or the disability required,. He does qualify for nursing home care due to his disabilities, and there is one in Fayetteville. We currently live 35 miles north, so that is not a trip I enjoy doing.Navigating the VA medical system and getting the benefits our soldiers have earned is difficult at best. A Veterans Service Officer is usually needed to file the claims, but often times the claims don't get processed for years without intervention from your Congressman. Some have pending claims from 2006.This situation is a national disgrace (but I digress).We'll see what next spring brings, at least it's good to know we have options, but at this point Assisted Living is not one of them.