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Thanks for your thoughts, maniladad! I have since cancelled my stop-loss orders, based on the thoughts from this group, and continue to try to figure out how to invest wisely in other ways. My review of the BMW list today produced almost nothing I wanted to research further, though I would like to know if anyone knows anything about Oshkosh Truck. I've just started that process, so any thoughts are welcome.

And yes, I am not yet 65. In 20 years I will be, though. I think about that age a lot lately. My husband is 8 years older than me, and suddenly retirement seems all too close and entirely too ugly. I worry about it. And about many other things these days -- doing a home remodel and refinance to pay for it feels like a bad idea now. When I was 35, it felt like I had forever to pay off a mortgage. I have similar difficulties about a lot of stuff. DD's college fund is growing too slowly. I am not successful enough (not that my irrational worry has given me what "successful enough" looks like). I am also not thin enough, healthy enough, strong enough. When I really get going, I can be very down on myself. It's a surprise to me, because although I have had rough times in my life, I have never been negative about myself before.

I believe it's the sudden realization of a profoundly time-limited problem. I don't have all the time in the world. In fact, I barely have any time at all.

I recognize that this is a phase, a developmental milestone, soemthing like that. I watch it with calm interest, when I can, with grumpy disapproval when I'm too darned tired and, well, grumpy, to do that.

And I recognize that a lot of this is genuine stress. DH found out last night that he needs a pacemaker to correct the major arrhythmias he's been dealing with. I have an ongoing minor, but very painful, health issue. (And chronic pain will mess with your mood faster than almost anything.) My house had a tree fall on it and even the minor repairs to the exterior structures are costing more than insurance provided. We're talking about adding onto the house and refinancing the mortgage. DH lives 365 miles away and there are no jobs for him in my area. We both applied for jobs and haven't heard anything. DD has all her health issues and two hours of homework every night. I just got an email directing my staff to locate and inventory 1,126 computers by Tuesday.

So, err. Hmmm. Yeah, I've lost my train of thought on investing, except that this is perhaps one reason why my investing does better when left alone for long periods of time. Most of the time I am the only person responsible for my household (see above ref. DH living 365 miles away), and my job is not a low-stress easy one. So if I can give my investments two hours a month and they do okay for me, well, that's the best I can do right now.

But it worries me. Deep down, it worries me. It's not enough.

ThyPeace, needing a little more Peace in the Thy, please....
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