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Subject: Re: I guess I am the only step parent.., ok... Date: 12/22/2005 11:26 AM
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Thanks, Sock. It was nice to see someone reply.

Yes, my stepdaughter is with us at least 3-4 days a week. I do believe that if things ever got really bad, she would let me know. Her problem is that she doesn't understand what "really" bad is. I also know that most all 17.5 year old kids think they "know" everything.

My problem is that I don't know if I should try and speak with her like she is my child or to keep the conversation to that of an interested party. Don't forget my stepdaughter's bio parents don't want to upset her and will not confront her. She is very aware of how she has "backed" them off.

My stepdaughter uses guilt against them. It doesn't work on me. I know I have always done right by her, therefore no guilt on my end. I am also very aware of the games she is playing. As I mentioned in an earlier post, I have been a stepchild for over 36 years. I know games and manipulation of parents when I see it. To this day, I am sometimes still guilty of using it with my parents. I think this is one of the reasons she and I get along so well. I have been where she is now at. She knows that.


Anyhow, I know that it is her life. I just care so darn much for her. I want to just shake her. I am also smart enough to know that if I push her to far, she will tell her parents who will immediately attack me and defend her. I have tried talking with my husband about it but, he refuses to see that his daughter is heading(actually, already there) down a bad road.

Thanks for letting me vent...........ha ha ha.....

I wish you well....

Tigorious
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