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Thanks you all for replying!

I agree, the 6 year old does not get to make the decisions. I just didn't want his father to think that it was me pushing him being here all the time, (as I'm not and DO think seeing his father, who might have been not a great husband, but is a great dad).

The tax thing was my fault. The marriage ended as the result of his affiar, and at the time, I was only thinking of securing primary custody of our son. Money, tax exemptions, none of that crossed my mind. And I guess, not my lawyers either. I just thought since we were both paying for the care of our child, we would alternate the years on tax exemptions.

As for him going on trips and leaving me no way to contact him, it is still a puzzle. We don't hate one another, and have NEVER been confontational in each others lives. And I don't think that it's his wife. It's him. If he goes on an extended trip, then he tells his Mom a number where he is, but if they go away for a weekend, then, I don't know anything. It never really bothered me until a friend had their child in the hospital w/ this awful flu that is going around, and I began to get a little parinoid. So my response has had to be, "If something happens, and he asks why you aren't there, I have to tell him it's b/c I don't know where you are or how to reach you" . And that it is the ex's choice to have it that way.

Again, thanks for all the suggestions!
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