This is one thread/topic I wish I could have avoided, but truth is, sometimes life throws us curves we don't expect.

My Dh has been diagnosed with state 3 kidney disease, and has other medical issues all related to Agent Orange. Today we travel to the VA medical center to start the prostate cancer possibility.

Me? I'm an 18 year breast cancer survivor who has a slight heart problem.

We are both 68 and have retired for 16 years. We are now confronted with decisions I really don't want to make. We have a 6 y/o 3000sf 2 level house in a small town. I would like to sell this place (even though what we have in it would never be returned) but it does not mortgage. I'm ready to head for Fayetteville, Ar. which would put us within 3-4 miles of the VA medical and my PC physician who has just moved her office there. Our favorite townhouse area currently has 3 homes for sale, and just a little north is a new over 55 community where we could build the smaller house of choice.

Dh on the other hand wants to go straight into an apartment. After 40+ years of non-apartment living, I dread the thought of going back to that.

So, since this appears to be a Mexican stand-off, here we will likely stay until next spring at least.

There are over 500 homes for sale in our town, and prices have continued to drop due to the number of foreclosure that have sold in the range of $25.00 (yes that's right) to $80 s.f. Therefore, we know that the likely hood of selling quickly would/could mean a losss of $100K.

Who ever said "growing old gracefully" and these are "our golden years" doesn't have any idea what they were talking about.

I will leave the situation with my 92 y/o Mother for another day.