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Author: Frydaze1 Big gold star, 5000 posts Old School Fool Add to my Favorite Fools Ignore this person (you won't see their posts anymore) Number: of 45860  
Subject: Re: An Open Letter Date: 10/10/2012 1:44 PM
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Unfortunately, you can't save an abuse victim against their will. I know this from being on the wrong end of it.

You can, however, help them to see that their self-worth is greater than they believe it to be. One of the most common acts of these types of abusers is to convince the victim that nobody else would love them as much as the abuser does, because the victim is so worthless. It keeps the victim from wanting to leave "the one person who will ever really love them". Until this belief changes, the victim won't usually leave.

How do you accomplish this? I have no idea. My own path was to sleep with enough other guys who thought I was wonderful, until I started to believe it. I don't actually recommend this method for several reasons. One of the most obvious being that the abuser - if they find out or even suspect - will destroy the victim for it. But until the victim believes in their heart that they are lovable, and they don't have to be a doormat to be loved, they won't ever leave.

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