Warning: rambling thoughts ahead


I'm really enjoying this topic because my husband and I are getting ready to revamp our wills and add trusts if we find them appropriate. Our challange is the guardian/trustee issue. Our families live thousands of miles away, and I'm less than thrilled with the idea of ripping our kids out of their house to move to the other side of the country, and while we initially chose one of our siblings as guardian, I can see our parenting styles have diverged quite a bit over the years. None of the other siblings would be even close to acceptable. And yes, I realize it doesn't have a family member but we don't really have any friends we'd be comfortable asking either. The one person I'd truly trust to act as either guardian or trustee or both is my babysitter, who has been like a mother to me the past 11 years, but I'm not sure it's fair to ask her to assume this responsibility at a time she and her husband might be looking to retire. I do think I'm going to discuss it with her though.

Right now our trustee is my hubbie's mom, and she would be great, but I am concerned about her health and how long we could possibly need a trustee. My younger one is only 6. We also might have a few greedy dysfunctional souls show up to attempt to take advantage of the situation, so I need to make sure we do this right.

Sigh, what to do when there's no one to choose?
Always ;-)
Hunzi