We haven't done playdates. Part is how busy we are with the kids. ; part because most moms I know outside of work are SAH and don't want to do anything weekends; part because we're exhausted. I just don't even know how to do that or who to reach out to. He won't say any of his classmates names and he says he has no friends there. (Okay, yes I know this is a copout answer and I feel stupid, but I can't make friends for myself -- I have no idea how one builds relationships.)

A lot of community centers 'round these parts offer classes and sports for wee little kids - soccer is one that I am reasonably sure starts at 3ish at a place here and there. Tennis too.

And Niece always had a blast at what she called "Dora" school - they had weekend and/or summer school type classes that were about Spanish culture and Diego and Dora themed. And she was so mute in class she didn't speak to her teacher at preschool THE WHOLE FIRST YEAR. Seriously wouldn't speak to the woman until Year 2, but would be all "BLAB BLAB BLAB" when she got home.

So. Anyway. Perhaps start with Community Centers in your area? The activity level in the sports and classes would give your son a chance to be present and interact at his own pace, since there's a lot of ball-kicking or macaroni-glueing, but also since they are short in duration he gets a breather afterwards to regroup.

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